This Saturday is the birthday of one of my sisters, Carol. I’ve always known her as Carol Ann but these days she seems to prefer Carol. So I’ll stick with that. At least for today.
The number of years she’ll be celebrating this week will be left to your imagination. My parents taught me never to ask or reveal the age of a woman. So if I need to know a woman’s age, I simply ask for her date of birth. Sometimes that works just fine. Other times, not so much.
This particular lady has been my sister all my life. Contrast that with the observation that I have been the brother of my other two sisters all of their lives and you’ll come to the conclusion that the birthday girl is my senior. But not by much.
In our earlier years I might have been a bet reticent about affirming this particular sibling. When we were kids there seemed to have been a fair amount of sibling rivalry. Not so anymore.
This lady is very smart. Always has been. Always will be.
One of the nuggets of wisdom Carol shared with me a few years ago is an expanded and improved rendition of the familiar saying: “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know.”
The meaning of that statement is simple. The premise is that if you know the right people, they will contribute to your advancement in life. As a personal favor. Whether or not your knowledge and experience are sufficient for such advancement.
Carol’s revised version of the “It’s not what you know” statement goes like this: “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know who knows you and knows you know what you know.”
It took me a few minutes to commit that saying to memory. But since I learned it, I’ve never forgotten it. And it’s so very true.
Advancement in life is connected to relationships. But relationships alone are not sufficient for advancement that’s truly earned and intrinsically valuable. Yet relationships are often the link that connect a person’s knowledge and experience with people who can offer opportunity.
In my ministerial leadership career, I’ve often been guided by inherent perception when “hiring” folks to work with me. I’m a fairly good judge of character, trustworthiness, and integrity. In my mind, those are critical qualities for a potential colleague to possess.
Happy Birthday dear sister Carol! And thank you for a memorable and helpful cliché: “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know who knows you and knows you know what you know.”